14 Years and Where Did It Go?

It was July 4, 1994 when Bill and I got married in Montego Bay, Jamaica. So much has happened in that time. We bought a house, had a son, adopted a homeless cat, and got a new dog. Those were the positive things. We also gained weight (average 10 lbs a year - me / 5 lbs for him), got divorced, got engaged (him), broke the engagement (her...my theory), and got into debt. The only monumental thing that we have to show from this day 14 years ago is Logan...and he is worth it all!

Seems like July is Bill's time for change. We got married (2x for those who remember), bought a house, had a child, left his home and family (five years on July 10th), and his latest July change -- he's a bachelor once again.

Now as I prefer to be positive, there have been many wonderful changes for me since our marriage ended. I live with my lovely little boy, I own a house with my bank, I work at a wonderful, flexible job that I love, I have more friends then I did back then, and now I am happy to say down 40 lbs. These are just a few of the things.

Looking over the past five years my greatest lesson comes from what my mother has taught me. You deal with what your dealt the best way possible and sometimes you win. I've learned from other loved ones that sometimes you lose but hopefully that teaches me to treasure what I have.

Our week began with some ups and downs for poor Logan. He joined a summer program that had some not so nice children in it. Realizing my guy is not an angel I look at it with cautious eyes. And I did see he did not deserve the ridiculing and comments that were directed to him. After a conversation with the director of this program it seems that things are better. In fact, yesterday -- only three days later -- Logan was last man standing in dodge ball representing his group and this time he was cheered and encouraged. (Amazingly he still found a way to put a negative spin on this but we're working on that.)

Another up - the pool was opened and quite clear compared to previous years. The down - the filter is broke. I'm waiting to see if I can get a refurbished motor for a low cost otherwise "Auf Wiedersehen Pool!" We've already decided to ditch it at the end of the season. Since Logan and I have discovered the Wantagh Park Pool, we are ready to be public pool people. It will save me money and I can reclaim my backyard.

We're off to an annual July 4th party at Tina's cousin Kim's house. Should be lots of fun!

Keep safe!